The How You Breathe Is How You Live Podcast
How You Breathe Is How You Live is a podcast about the profound connection between breath, self-awareness, full potential, transformation and transcendence.
Hosted by Jake Parent, a breathwork expert and self-actualization coach, Co-hosted by Riley and Josh, this show explores breathwork and plant ceremonies shapes your mind, emotions, and life.
Through insightful conversations, science-backed wisdom, and a playful yet deep approach, you’ll discover how to harness your breath for more clarity, confidence, and fulfillment.
Whether you’re a high-performing entrepreneur, a seeker of inner peace, or just curious about unlocking your potential, this podcast will help you breathe better—and live better.
Episodes

Oct 15, 2025
Oct 15, 2025
31 min
In this episode, we explore the profound journey of discovering one's life purpose through the lens of breathwork.
Dive deep into the concept of mastery, the significance of clarity, and how our unique gifts, passions, and values shape our existence.
We'll share personal stories and practical insights on aligning your actions with your true purpose, using breathwork to clear mental noise and connect with your subconscious.
Whether you're seeking fulfillment, resilience, or a sense of direction, this guide will lead you to uncover hidden treasures within yourself.

Oct 8, 2025
Oct 8, 2025
30 min
Welcome back after an unplanned hiatus. We were a little rusty and the sound is off with some words dropping out. I've included a transcript. Thanks for listening. In this episode, we delve into the intricate relationship between stress, breath work, and personal growth.
We explore common stressors in modern life such as being overloaded, self-doubt, misalignment, and perfectionism, and how they can be managed effectively.
The discussion emphasizes the benefits of breath work as a powerful tool to reduce stress, nurture self-worth, and align with one's true values and gifts.
Learn how to transform negative reactions to stress into opportunities for personal growth and find out why having a clear life purpose can make all the difference in managing life's challenges.

Aug 6, 2025
Aug 6, 2025
41 min
This episode we discuss Susan's transformative journey with 5MEO-DMT, starting from her initial curiosity influenced by a friend's experience, to multiple intense sessions with profound realizations.
Throughout, Susan confronts her beliefs, grapples with existential fears, and seeks deeper understanding of life and death. Her experiences include confronting the fear of death spurred by an aneurysm diagnosis and the loss of her mother, which led to an existential exploration and a sense of peace and interconnectedness after subsequent 5MEO-DMT sessions.
We touch on the need for curiosity, questioning long-held beliefs, and the importance of reconnecting with loved ones. Susan finds profound spiritual insights and an ineffable sense of knowing through her DMT experiences, which ultimately bring her peace and clarity in life.

Jul 30, 2025
Jul 30, 2025
25 min
In this episode we finally start discussing how to develop through the stages of vertical ego development, emphasizing that progression requires navigating through each stage without skipping.
Advancement often arises from disorientation and trauma, which force individuals to re-evaluate their approach to life.
The importance of feedback and self-examination is highlighted, along with practices for developing self-awareness, handling blind spots, and differentiating between confidence and humility.
We also emphasize the significance of practicing presence under pressure and suggest a journaling process to analyze and improve reactions and interactions.
We outline the steps necessary for moving from one stage of ego development to the next, emphasizing the need for emotional awareness, collaborative skills, and balancing self-expression with group transformation.
The final stages involve practicing presence as leadership and embracing contradictions with compassion and courage, ultimately leading to transcendence.

Jul 23, 2025
Jul 23, 2025
25 min
We continue a detailed discussion on ego development.
Part two starts by recapping the first four stages—
Self-Centered,
Group-Centered,
Skill-Based, and
Self-Determined.
We then cover the fifth stage,
Self-Questioning,
which involves valuing authenticity over success and being open to differing opinions without needing to be right.
The sixth stage is
Self-Actualization,
where individuals integrate their whole self and lead from presence, experiencing flow states and systemic thinking.
Finally, the seventh stage,
Transcendence,
is described as a state of expansive awareness and unity, detached from personal identity and outcomes.
Each stage builds on the previous one and that development often involves periods of confusion and disorientation.

Jul 9, 2025
Jul 9, 2025
35 min
In this episode we discuss the concept of ego evolution, emphasizing the common misconception of 'ego death' and clarifying the ego's role in self-preservation and daily functioning.
Jake explains Freud's perspective on the ego as a mediator between subconscious desires and the conscious mind. The ego creates personal narratives that shape our perception of life, which can change over time.
A detailed explanation of the first four of seven layers of ego evolution is provided, covering self-centered, group-centered, skill-based, and self-determined stages. Each stage is described in terms of its attributes, challenges.
Jake also touches on related concepts such as the default mode network, framing, and paradigms, and explains how these influence the ego and personal growth.

Jul 2, 2025
Jul 2, 2025
38 min
This episode discusses the importance of setting intentions in life and differentiates them from goals and resolutions.
Jake highlights how living on autopilot can lead to unfulfilling outcomes and suggests that having clear intentions can act as a life hack. Using relatable analogies, the speaker explains that intentions help guide actions and decisions, fostering self-awareness and presence.
Rituals and the setting of intentions in practices like breathwork are emphasized as means to cultivate gratitude and clarity.
Jake also shares personal experiences and provides practical advice on how to start and end the day with intentionality, underlining the transformative impact of mindful living.

Jun 25, 2025
Jun 25, 2025
39 min
This week we discuss the transformative journey through breath work, starting from healing and progressing through self-awareness to self-actualization and finally to transcendence.
It explains how breath work helps quiet the mind, induce timelessness, and create a sense of unity and gratitude.
Breath work can lead to personal growth, better self-awareness, and a state of transcendence that transcends personal ego. It covers various experiences people have during breath work, such as timelessness and complete unity with the universe, and explains that breath work facilitates the healing of emotional blocks, enhancing self-awareness, generosity, and acceptance.
It also underscores the importance of authenticity, compassion, and forgiveness in achieving a transcendent state and living harmoniously with oneself and others.

Jun 18, 2025
Jun 18, 2025
30 min
We begin by using using a musical instrument analogy to describe the spiritual journey and self-actualization process. It argues that rather than climbing a never-ending mountain, the journey is akin to tuning and learning to play an instrument.
The process involves three stages:
healing,
gaining self-awareness, and eventually
achieving self-actualization.
Healing involves repairing emotional and mental aspects to fully experience life.
Self-awareness is compared to learning scales and practicing on an instrument, which involves understanding one's values and developing skills.
Subsequently, self-actualization allows a person to be creative and operate at their fullest potential, leading to fulfillment and mastery.
Jake has a dim view of the grind culture, emphasizing alignment and flow rather than continuous effort and stress. It also discusses the balance between diligence and relaxation, as well as the idea of finding meaningful, fulfilling work rather than being driven by ego or external rewards.

Jun 11, 2025
Jun 11, 2025
27 min
This episode explores the process of achieving self-awareness through breath work, starting with creating calmness and centering oneself. It explains that becoming centered allows individuals to experience emotions without fear of being stuck in an extreme state. The discussion further breaks down self-awareness into
Calmness
Self-Connection
Clarity
Courage
Confidence
Curiosity
Compassion, And Finally
Creativity.
Each step builds on the previous, creating a comprehensive path to understanding and expressing one's authentic self both internally and externally. The dialogue also touches on related concepts such as groundedness, the importance of curiosity, discernment versus judgment, and the integration of mind, body, and emotions.







